Introverted Adventurer

Do you consider yourself an introvert, an extrovert or an ambivert somewhere in between? I consider myself an introvert for the following reasons:

  • Being in large crowds drains me of energy and I need alone, quiet time to recharge.
  • I prefer to spend time with small groups of close friends and family rather than larger groups that include acquaintances and strangers.

I also love adventure and enjoy doing fun and daring things (with the people I love)! Lately, people who are getting to know me continue to be surprised by my adventurous spirit.  I think that people mistakenly associate introvertedness with boring. I am here to dispel that myth and encourage us all to get to know one another as individuals instead of stereotypes.

In the last few decades I have found adventure in the following experiences:

  • Hiking
  • Hot air balloon ride
  • Parasailing
  • African safari up close and personal with wild animals
  • Cage diving with a 15 foot great white shark
  • Tattoo art
  • Throwing axes with my work friends (see picture below!)
  • Sky diving
  • Writing a book
  • Giving a commencement speech 
  • Studying abroad in Spain
  • Traveling to cities, states, and countries around the world
  • Reading about adventures I haven’t experience in person… yet!

I am proud of my adventurous spirit. I seek out friends and family who enjoy these experiences with me. I believe I have done more than extroverts out there in the world.  But because I’m an introvert, I am not shouting about these experiences from every rooftop or in every conversation.  You have to get to know me, or read this blog since this is how I reflect and share, to learn about my adventures.  But they are there.  Why do you think I named my book The Coach ADVenture?!


What has been your favorite life adventure so far?

What is still on your life bucket list? 


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October Reading Update [2019]

My reading life goes through phases. Some months I’m into audiobooks every day in a row, and then I switch over to catch up on my favorite podcasts and I skip books for awhile. Some weeks I have many late nights at work or plans with friends and reading goes on the back burner, and then other weeks I find more time than I thought possible to read to my heart’s content. While I didn’t read a lot this month, I did hit 75 books read so far this year, which is fun to see in print! Plus my very own book, The Coach ADVenture, came out this month!

This month I read:

  • Harry Potter and the Cursed Child Parts One and Two by J.K.Rowling, John Tiffany & Jack Thorne – I’m going to London in December and my best friend bought us tickets to see this play over two nights while we are there.  I have loved the Harry Potter series since my father first introduced it to me. I loved taking time to dip back into the wizarding world with this new story. Reading it as a play was different than the novels, but it helped me visualize the play I will be seeing in a few months. I loved the adventurous storyline and cannot wait to see it performed live!
  • After the Flood by Kassandra Montag – What a fascinating book!  It was actually similar to The Age of Miracles by Karen Thompson Walker, which I read back in June. This book begins after a great six year flood that has left most of the world under water, with people surviving on ships and by creating communities on top of mountains. As in uncertain times, bad behavior makes it hard to trust anyone. Myra is just trying to keep herself and her daughter Pearl alive, as she fights to find her way back to her older daughter.  This story has family drama, issues around trust, community, secrets, and betrayal, as well as the climate concerns.  Ironically, while I was reading this, I attended a conference on green schools. Every time someone mentioned sustainability and oceans, I was freaked out, thinking about this book! It was a great read!
  • The Gifted School by Bruce Holsinger – I heard about this book on a 10 Things to Tell you podcast episode and I put it on hold at the library months ago. When it finally came up, I was excited to read it. I remember hearing it loosely compared to the recent college admission scandal with some celebrities, and it is part that, part overbearing parents, part obsession with keeping up with the Joneses, and part bad decision-making. I enjoyed liking and hating the characters throughout the story.  They each had redeemable qualities and also qualities that make you just despise them!
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Unsolicited Feedback

Have you ever received unsolicited feedback?  If you are a living, breathing human who interacts with real people (or internet trolls), I’m sure you have!  Recently a friend of my received some unsolicited feedback that was so rude it was shocking to her, and to me when she retold me the story.  It made me think about times I have received feedback that was unwanted.  This can happen for a variety of reasons.  Today I’m reflecting on this, because as an instructional coach I find giving relevant and purposeful feedback valuable, and a critical role of a coach.  However, if that feedback is unsolicited, it may not be well received.

Here are a few instances I can think of when unsolicited feedback was unnecessary:

  • As a principal, I once had a sassy Kindergarten student come up to me during her recess.  She looked me up and down and said, “That is the ugliest outfit I have ever seen.”  Now, I was both shocked and amused by this, coming from a 5 year old.  However, I contained my giggle and I used this as an opportunity to talk to her about speaking respectfully to people. [And to her credit, it was not one of my finer outfits!]
  • “You look tired.”  This statement is such an insult to me.  When someone says it, I assume that they mean I don’t look good. What they might mean, is that I don’t look like myself and they are concerned.  The truth is, I might be tired, or I might be battling an illness, or I might be going through a rough time, I might have stayed up late finishing a good book or binging a good show, or I might have decided to skip the make-up routine that morning.  No matter what, if it’s not a close friend showing genuine concern for me, this statement is a loaded insult. I recommend we avoid giving unsolicited feedback about looks in general, especially if it’s not so positive.
  • “Have you lost weight?” This may be controversial, but weight is another area where people often given unsolicited feedback.  As someone who has gained and lost the same X number of pounds many times over my lifetime, questions about weight, even when framed as a compliment, are triggering.  What do you say?  Yes, thanks for noticing.  No, I’m just wearing the right size pants today. Yes, but it’s a daily struggle and I’ve lost a lot before you finally noticed. No, I’m wearing 5 pair of Spanx and I’m sucking it all in. 
  • “What was going on in your classroom today?  It sounded out of control!”  Transitioning into education talk, this kind of feedback happens often in a school.  We walk by a colleague’s classroom, or we happen to share a wall with someone, so we make assumptions about what is going on inside without knowing all of the information.  On more than one occasion, someone heard noise coming from my classroom and expressed concern that I didn’t have control.  As a new teacher, I didn’t even know how to address this concern. My class wasn’t out of control. They were ENGAGED!  It wasn’t until I stepped out of my own classroom and began to visit other rooms that I realized how silent many of my peers’ classrooms were all day long.

All of these examples make me reflect on how important it is to provide SOLICITED feedback.  For instructional coaches, this is a learning process.  Each teacher you work with may prefer feedback in a different format.  And there are some teachers who don’t want feedback from you… yet! This is why I stress the importance of building trusting relationships before moving into a coaching role.  As you get to know a teacher, you can begin to see his or her strengths.  From there, you can begin to learn what his or her professional goals are and how you might support them. Coaching that involves observation and feedback can come next, especially when the teacher is asking you for feedback based on his or her goals.

I will add the caveat hear that as an administrator, there may come a time when you do have to give someone unsolicited feedback.  This may be following egregious behavior, or the endangerment of students.  That is your job and at that point, it is necessary whether the person wants the feedback or not.  However, the stronger your relationship is with that person prior to such an incident, the easier that difficult conversation will be for both of you.

What are your thoughts on feedback, both unsolicited and desired? 

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Building Resiliency: October

In January I began a deep dive in Elena Aguilar’s Onward: Cultivating Emotional Resilience in Educators and the accompanying workbook. I hope to share some of my reflections as I build daily habits to strength my own resilience and support that growth in others. Aguilar outlines a habit and a disposition for each month of the year. Follow along as I reflect on each month’s key ideas.

October’s habit is Be Here Now and the disposition is Humor.

October is the time of year when teachers begin to feel the pressure.  The beginning of the year routines have been established and the rigorous work has begun. Leaders are fielding parent complaints, scheduling evaluations, and completing all the paperwork that comes along. Aguilar knows the rhythm of a school year well, and she planned the habit and disposition for this month (and all of the months!) strategically. As I began to read this chapter, I needed a reminder of the value of mindfulness and I needed a kick to get back into a meditation habit.

Every time I dust off my favorite meditation app, Headspace, I enjoy it. Meditation is always time well spent, for peace of mind. I’ve tried to maintaining a morning meditation habit, but it’s not easy. This month, I’m working on building an evening meditation habit. Regardless of the time of day I do an official meditation, I also try to remind myself to stop and breath deeply a few times a day. It’s usually easy for me to remember this in my car. I spend a lot of time in my car, driving from school to school or home to work. While the traffic may stress me out, I arrive early to my destination 99.9% of the time, so I try to take a moment to take at least 3 deep breaths before I step out of my car and into the next meeting or activity.

“Practicing mindfulness is like hitting an internal pause button on the drama of life.” ~Page 127

This is so true! I recently participated in a 10 minute body scan meditation at a work meeting and when it was over I felt so incredibly calm, relaxed, and content. Whatever might have stressed me out before that meeting, I was able to into the rest of my day with such a sense of peace.

Ever since mindfulness was my word of 2015, I’ve cultivated a variety of habits to be more mindful in my life. I love Aguilar’s research on the history and benefits of mindfulness, and the links to why this is good for teachers and students too!  If the people with whom you work need some reasons to bring mindfulness into schools, this chapter is full of research to share with them.

“Our emotions are contagious… Children reflect the nervous systems of adults around them.” ~Page 133

I appreciate the link Aguilar makes in this chapter between mindfulness and implicit bias.  Until we are more aware of ourselves and our thoughts and actions, we cannot begin to address the implicit bias that lies within each of us. But bias is something that we need to address, especially in education, for the benefit of each student we serve.

The chapter ends on a happy note, asks us to reflect on moments of joy and humor. I love being able to pause and enjoy laughter with friends, family, or colleagues. Without the laughter, our work would be too much for any one of us to maintain alone.  It’s always a good reminder to make time for the joy!

Posts in the Building Resilience series:

Building Resilience

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Sustainability Education

What does sustainability education look like in your school system?

How green is your school/ district? 

I recently attended the Green California Schools and Community Colleges Summit. The job I began in July is in a school district that has been a leader in the Green Schools movement in California and the nation.  This is one of the many aspects of this district I was excited about during the application process. This is the first school district I have worked for that has clear goals about environmental stewardship within district systems and within the education of our students. I have spent the last three months learning about these systems and admiring the focus our district has on sustainability.

  • We have a district green team, and each school has a green team.
  • We have a district organic farm and all schools have gardens.
  • We use chemical-free cleaning.
  • Our classrooms have solar tubes to use more daylight efficiently.
  • We have high efficiency hand dryers.
  • We have hydration stations at each school.
  • We have waste diversion and food scrap composting.

I’m still learning about all of these elements. Attending this conference opened my eyes to even more! It also made me realize how important it is to share this information. When I think of all of the students across the country who aren’t learning this information, I’m worried. When I think of all of the systems that schools use that hinder sustainability efforts, I’m worried. When I think of what I didn’t know just four months ago about this, I’m worried about the educators who are where I was.

I learned a few tips I’d like to share for people at the beginning of this journey.


The U.N. 17 sustainable development goals (SDGs)

  1. The U.N. has 17 sustainable development goals “to transform our world”. You can read about the goals here and you can see them in the graphic above. This is a great place for educators to start educating themselves. It’s also a great way to involve students in the discussion. You could share the 17 goals with students and ask them to choose which goal they would like to have an impact on. This could lead to a student-driven passion project that could impact the world.


    CA EP&C’s

  2. California has Environmental Principles and Concepts (EP & C’s). These are built into the latest History-Social Science and Science State Standards, and will be incorporated into VAPA, ELA, and more by 2022. These elements can be integrated within just about any class with some purposeful planning and new resources.
  3. One of the keynote speakers, and the former superintendent of my district, Dr. Tim Baird gave participants 3 ways to begin this work in a school or district:
    1. Green teams – Start a green team in your organization to talk and learn about this important work.
    2. Gardens – Build a garden on your campus. This can serve as an outdoor learning space, an addition to your school lunch program, and an education on how to make steps within your own community
    3. Garbage – Teach students how to do a garbage audit. Once they realize how much they throw out that will end up in a landfill, they will want to research other options. Soon they will be teaching others the value of recycling, composting, and using less single-use plastic.

What is your school or district doing in this area?  Where would you recommend people start?  If you are new to this, how might you begin this discussion in your system? 

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Observing lessons as an instructional coach

When I first became a coach, I was unsure what exactly I should write down during an observation. Over time, my coaching skills improved and I began to work with teachers on their own personal focus area. For instance, if a teacher asked me for help with engaging all students in the writing process, I would begin our coaching cycle by observing that teacher during a writing lesson. I would take note of what the teacher and the students said and did around writing, noting what was asked of the students and what they produced (or did not produce). These observational notes would help me talk to the teacher about next steps and would help me plan my demonstration lesson or our co-teaching lesson.

As an administrator, I learned how important it was for me to have a focus area before going out to observe in classrooms.  There are many things that can be observed in a classroom on any given day, but a coach cannot give a teacher feedback on all elements of teaching and learning at once. The more narrow your focus, the more the teacher can connect and reflect.

In Chapter 2, What are instructional leadership skills?, of my new book The Coach ADVenture: Building Powerful Instructional Leadership Skills that Impact Learning, I talk about three big areas in which you might focus your classroom observations.

Here is a small excerpt from the book…

Below is a list of possible instructional, environmental, and cultural items you might observe in a classroom:


  • Break down of minutes of teacher talk, student talk, and silence
  • Learning tasks—What are students actually saying or writing?
  • Daily objective/ learning target—What is stated or posted about the day’s learning?
  • Text—What text(s) are students seeing, using, reading, viewing?


  • Room setup—Students’ seating arrangement, teacher desk, other furniture, etc.
  • Print-rich—Are there books, posters, charts visible in the room?
  • Student work—Is there current student work visible in the room? Is the student work all identical or unique?


  • Representative—Do the posters or pictures or books in the room reflect the culture of the students? Do they reflect diversity?
  • Risks—Do students feel comfortable taking risks?

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On my website I have a page of resources to accompany the book. Included on that page are some sample note-taking guides that can support an instructional leader. Ideally, your note-taking guide should be based on your coaching goals with an individual teacher or your site focus areas. The more detailed notes a coach takes, the better the coaching conversation can be with a teacher. I know that when someone gives me feedback, I appreciate detailed, specific information with examples. In your role as coach, I encourage you to reflect on the following:

  • How do you take notes during an observation?
  • How do you decide what to focus on during an observation?
  • How do you use your notes to frame your coaching conversation?

You can see a preview of The Coach ADVenture on the DBC website here. If you are reading the book, I’d love to hear your thoughts using the hashtag #CoachADV on social media. TheCoachADventure_Cover_Front

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The Coach ADVenture is out!

I’m honored to share that my book came out today!  The Coach ADVenture: Building Powerful Instructional Leadership Skills that Impact Learning is meant to be a guide for all educators, in any role. Every educator can be a leader and an instructional coach, with the right skills.  The fun part of this book is that you can choose which ADVenture to follow.


There are two educator’s stories woven throughout the book.  Mr. Fox is an elementary principal with no instructional coaching skills when we first meet him.  Ms. Martinez is a high school principal with a wealth of instructional leadership experience and a challenging team to lead.  Each of their coaching ADVentures follows a different path through the book.  You can join either of them on their journey or you can read from front to back as you enhance your own skill set.

I cannot wait for educators to read this book and put the ideas into practice because I truly believe that students and staff will be positively impacted.  If you read the book, or if you want to hear about the book, please join our community using the #CoachADV hashtag to share successes, challenges, and support.  Consider visiting my website for additional coaching resources. I look forward to interacting with our coaching community as we learn and grow together.

The Coach ADVenture: Building Powerful Instructional Leadership Skills that Impact Learning is available for purchase on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.



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