I just finished reading Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First: 10 Questions to Take Your Friendships to the Next Level by Laura Tremaine. I have been anxiously awaiting this book since I began following the author through her podcast, 10 Things to Tell You. I pre-ordered the book back in August. This was the first time I had ever pre-ordered a book. I was 100% certain I would love the book. I also pre-ordered a copy as an early birthday present for my childhood best friend, because I thought it would be fun for us to discuss the questions. I knew another friend would buy herself the book (hi Lauren!), and my cousin (hi JJ!) saw an Instagram post I wrote about the book when it arrived, and she began reading it with me as well.
Since the book came out just two weeks ago, I have talked about the first chapters with friends and family (Hi Holly & Ellen!), and encouraged more people to buy the book. I highly recommend this to every woman (men could certainly read it as well, but they are not the typical audience for this kind of book) to read and then share with friends. Laura Tremaine’s entire premise is that we all have stories to tell and we should be sharing our stuff with the people who are important to us. This sharing can be done online or in person, or even just in your journal when it’s really personal or private, but the important part is the sharing.
I often find in my own busy life that when I check in with friends and family, we tend to spend the majority of our time catching up on the basic, superficial parts of our lives (the weather, the same work successes and challenges, the same COVID news, the same stuff), and we rarely get to the deeper stuff. I have already found that through this book, my friends and I are able to share things that feel much more real, important, and connected to what matters. [Not that we are going to stop talking about The Housewives. Ever.]
As I read the book, I took my time. I read one chapter at a time and then I spent time journaling my thoughts about each chapter’s question. Some of what I wrote I have shared or will share in my conversations with friends. Other parts I wrote just for me. I have always used writing as a way to reflect. But I haven’t always shared my thoughts. I mean, I have a blog and I wrote a book, so I have shared plenty of thoughts over the years! But when, where, what, and how I share depends on the topic. There are times when it is easier to share something publicly, on social media for example, than it is to share with one person. There are other times, when the topic is personal or raw, when I only feel safe sharing with one person, in person. The value of this book is that all forms of sharing are encouraged! And for any of my friends and family reading this, Chapters 2, 4, 5 and 6 brought up some fun memories for me that I’m happy to talk about for hours!